Telefona zvans... Daudziem cilv\u0113kiem tas ir \u012bsts p\u0101rbaud\u012bjums. Uzzin\u0101sim, k\u0101p\u0113c ir bailes no telefona zvaniem un k\u0101 ar t\u0101m tikt gal\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kas ir telefobija un k\u0101p\u0113c t\u0101 rodas<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Telefobija jeb bailes no telefona sarun\u0101m ir soci\u0101l\u0101 trauksme. T\u0101 izpau\u017eas ar \u0161\u0101diem simptomiem:<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Ba\u017eas par to, k\u0101 j\u016bs uztvers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Bailes izskat\u012bties ne\u0113rti vai mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Trauksme par iejauk\u0161anos citas personas dz\u012bv\u0113.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Ilgsto\u0161a pag\u0101tnes sarunas p\u0101rdz\u012bvo\u0161ana un teikt\u0101 anal\u012bze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - panikas simptomi, ja j\u0101run\u0101 pa t\u0101lruni (slikta d\u016b\u0161a, tr\u012bce, pa\u0101trin\u0101ta sirdsdarb\u012bba, reibonis, elpo\u0161anas gr\u016bt\u012bbas).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sarunas pa t\u0101lruni var \u0161\u0137ist \u012bpa\u0161i sare\u017e\u0123\u012btas, jo t\u0101s prasa t\u016bl\u012bt\u0113ju reakciju un koncentr\u0113\u0161anos, kas nav rakstur\u012bgi \u012bszi\u0146u rakst\u012b\u0161anai. Introvertiem ir gr\u016bti panest iejauk\u0161anos person\u012bgaj\u0101 telp\u0101, un ekstravertiem tr\u016bkst neverb\u0101lu sign\u0101lu no otras personas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101 telefobija saboj\u0101 j\u016bsu dz\u012bvi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Telefobija var nopietni trauc\u0113t ikdienas dz\u012bvi:<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Tas apgr\u016btina darbu, jo \u012bpa\u0161i, ja ir nepiecie\u0161ami bie\u017ei zvani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Tas apgr\u016btina iek\u0161lietu un birokr\u0101tisko jaut\u0101jumu risin\u0101\u0161anu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Ietekm\u0113 soci\u0101los kontaktus un person\u012bgo dz\u012bvi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lai gan daudz ko var izdar\u012bt tie\u0161saist\u0113, izvair\u012b\u0161an\u0101s no t\u0101lru\u0146a zvaniem ne vienm\u0113r ir risin\u0101jums. Da\u017ek\u0101rt zvani ir neizb\u0113gami.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101 tikt gal\u0101 ar telephobiju<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Str\u0101d\u0101jiet pie savas attieksmes<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Analiz\u0113jiet savas trauksmi izraiso\u0161\u0101s domas. Piem\u0113ram, ja j\u016bs uztraucaties, ka, zvanot k\u0101dam cilv\u0113kam, trauc\u0113jat, pajaut\u0101jiet sev: \"Vai vi\u0146i atbild\u0113s, ja b\u016bs aiz\u0146emti?\" vai \"Vai es sp\u0113\u0161u izteikt savas domas, pat ja esmu noraiz\u0113jies?\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n Izm\u0113\u0123iniet iedarb\u012bbas terapiju<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u0101ciet bie\u017e\u0101k zvan\u012bt, s\u0101kot ar vienk\u0101r\u0161\u0101m situ\u0101cij\u0101m. Pak\u0101peniski p\u0101rejiet uz sare\u017e\u0123\u012bt\u0101kiem zvaniem. Fobiju gad\u012bjum\u0101 var pal\u012bdz\u0113t iedarb\u012bbas terapija, \u012bpa\u0161i terapeita vad\u012bb\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n V\u0113l da\u017ei veidi, k\u0101 viegl\u0101k tikt gal\u0101 ar telephobiju<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n - Apbalvojiet sevi par pan\u0101kumiem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Sagatavojieties sarunai, pierakstot galvenos punktus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - P\u0101rsp\u0113l\u0113jiet \u0161o sarunu sav\u0101 pr\u0101t\u0101, izt\u0113lojoties pozit\u012bvu izn\u0101kumu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Izturieties pret sevi ar r\u016bp\u0113m un uzslav\u0101m par sasniegumiem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ja bailes no zvana b\u016btiski ietekm\u0113 j\u016bsu dz\u012bvi, sadarb\u012bba ar Psytalk psihologu var pal\u012bdz\u0113t jums izprast trauksmes c\u0113lo\u0146us un atrast efekt\u012bvas metodes, k\u0101 to p\u0101rvar\u0113t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012btu par m\u012blest\u012bbu apg\u0101n\u012b\u0161ana: ko paties\u012bb\u0101 sagaid\u012bt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Saturs:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. M\u012bts 1. M\u012blest\u012bba dz\u012bvo tr\u012bs gadus<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Attiec\u012bbu att\u012bst\u012bbas posmi<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Iemesli, k\u0101p\u0113c cilv\u0113ki st\u0101jas attiec\u012bb\u0101s<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. M\u012bts 2: M\u012blest\u012bba var b\u016bt tikai viena uz m\u016b\u017eu<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. S\u0113rijveida monog\u0101mija<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. 3. m\u012bts: Vienlaic\u012bgi var m\u012bl\u0113t tikai vienu cilv\u0113ku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 8. M\u012bts 4: Draudz\u012bba starp v\u012brieti un sievieti nav iesp\u0113jama<\/p>\n\n\n\n 9. Ko dar\u012bt ar m\u012btiem sav\u0101 galv\u0101?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Par m\u012blest\u012bbu ir daudz m\u012btu. Piem\u0113ram, ka t\u0101 ilgst tikai tr\u012bs gadus vai ka \u012bsta m\u012blest\u012bba var b\u016bt tikai uz m\u016b\u017eu. Bet ko dar\u012bt, ja cilv\u0113ks patiesi tic \u0161iem m\u012btiem? Ko dar\u012bt, ja vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a dom\u0101, ka vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a jau ir palaidu\u0161i gar\u0101m savu vien\u012bgo m\u012blest\u012bbu un nekad vairs nevienu nesatiks? Vai, piem\u0113ram, atsak\u0101s draudz\u0113ties ar pret\u0113j\u0101 dzimuma p\u0101rst\u0101vjiem, uzskatot, ka \u0161\u0101da draudz\u012bba nav iesp\u0113jama?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Noskaidrosim t\u0101s b\u016bt\u012bbu. Apspried\u012bsim popul\u0101r\u0101kos mald\u012bgos priek\u0161status par m\u012blest\u012bbu un m\u0113\u0123in\u0101sim izprast, k\u0101 t\u0101 darbojas, lai k\u013c\u016btu par \u012bstiem ekspertiem \u0161aj\u0101 jom\u0101. \u0160aj\u0101 zi\u0146\u0101 mums pal\u012bdz\u0113s psihoterapeite J\u016blija Fedotova no pakalpojuma Zigmund.Online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abon\u0113jiet m\u016bsu Telegram kan\u0101lu, lai nepalaistu gar\u0101m interesantus rakstus, las\u012btu \u012bsas zi\u0146as un piedal\u012btos diskusij\u0101s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Katram cilv\u0113kam ir at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgs priek\u0161stats par to, kas ir m\u012blest\u012bba, un visiem var b\u016bt taisn\u012bba. \u0160ie priek\u0161stati ir atkar\u012bgi no cilv\u0113ka kult\u016bras, vecuma, audzin\u0101\u0161anas un n\u0101kotnes pl\u0101niem. Katram cilv\u0113kam ir sava unik\u0101la m\u012blest\u012bbas formula, kuras pamat\u0101 ir j\u016btas. L\u016bk, m\u016bsu versija:<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012blest\u012bba ir j\u016btas, kas rodas pret otru cilv\u0113ku un ietver sp\u0113c\u012bgu pie\u0137er\u0161anos, v\u0113lmi b\u016bt blakus, dal\u012bties priekos un b\u0113d\u0101s. T\u0101 noz\u012bm\u0113 gatav\u012bbu dar\u012bt lietas m\u012b\u013cot\u0101 lab\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kad m\u0113s m\u012blam, m\u0113s esam gatavi atteikties no sav\u0101m v\u0113lm\u0113m otra lab\u0101. Katrs no mums nov\u0113rt\u0113 savas: komfortu, priv\u0101tumu, maigumu. J\u016bs, visticam\u0101k, nel\u016bgsiet noguru\u0161am partnerim atbalstu, pat ja jums tas ir nepiecie\u0161ams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012blest\u012bba att\u012bst\u0101s ar abu partneru kop\u012bgiem centieniem un iesaist\u012b\u0161anos. T\u0101 izraisa ne tikai seksu\u0101lu, bet ar\u012b emocion\u0101lu un intelektu\u0101lu pievilk\u0161anu: jums ir \u0113rti un interesanti ar savu partneri, j\u016bs vi\u0146am uzticaties. Tas viss rada m\u012blest\u012bbu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012bts 1. M\u012blest\u012bba dz\u012bvo tr\u012bs gadus<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012blest\u012bba var ilgt tr\u012bs gadus, piecus gadus, desmit gadus vai ilg\u0101k. Kad saka, ka m\u012blest\u012bba ilgst tr\u012bs gadus, ar to dom\u0101 iem\u012bl\u0113\u0161anos, ko izraisa hormonu uzpl\u016bdi. Ta\u010du m\u012blest\u012bba nav tikai hormonu rezult\u0101ts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Evol\u016bcijas zin\u0101tnieki m\u012blest\u012bbu uzskata par izdz\u012bvo\u0161anas l\u012bdzekli. T\u0101 ir nepiecie\u0161ama sugas turpin\u0101\u0161anai. Ilgtermi\u0146a attiec\u012bbas \u013cauj ie\u0146emt, dzemd\u0113t un aizsarg\u0101t p\u0113cn\u0101c\u0113jus. P\u0113c trim gadiem organisms vairs tik asi nerea\u0123\u0113 uz partneri, un hormonu ra\u017eo\u0161ana pal\u0113nin\u0101s. Ta\u010du tas nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka m\u012blest\u012bba izz\u016bd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Attiec\u012bbu att\u012bst\u012bbas posmi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Apskat\u012bsim attiec\u012bbu att\u012bst\u012bbas posmus saska\u0146\u0101 ar psiholo\u0123es S\u016bzanas Kempbelas klasifik\u0101ciju. Ir piecas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Apvieno\u0161an\u0101s. \u0160aj\u0101 posm\u0101 rodas hormonu izrais\u012bta kaisl\u012bba. Partneri labpr\u0101t pavada laiku kop\u0101, ignor\u0113 viens otra tr\u016bkumus un veido pie\u0137er\u0161anos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. At\u0161\u0137ir\u012bbas. Partneri s\u0101k paman\u012bt viens otra at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bbas un tr\u016bkumus. Rodas p\u0101rmetumi un aps\u016bdz\u012bbas. Ja \u0161is periods tiek p\u0101rdz\u012bvots, partneri s\u0101k pie\u0146emt viens otru ar plusiem un m\u012bnusiem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Individualiz\u0101cija. Partneri dara savas lietas, koncentr\u0113jas uz sevi. \u0160is ir svar\u012bgs posms, lai paliktu kop\u0101, bet ne iz\u0161\u0137\u012bstu attiec\u012bbas. Iesp\u0113jams, ka viens no partneriem atrodas \u0161aj\u0101 posm\u0101, bet otrs v\u0113l ir sapl\u016b\u0161anas posm\u0101, kas var izrais\u012bt konfliktus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Atjauno\u0161ana. Ja attiec\u012bbas tiek uztur\u0113tas, starp partneriem att\u012bst\u0101s intimit\u0101te un r\u016bpes. Rodas l\u012bdzsvars starp \"es\" un \"m\u0113s\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. M\u012blest\u012bba. Partnera t\u0113ls paz\u016bd, blakus tiek atpaz\u012bts \u012bstais cilv\u0113ks. Partneri apzin\u0101s savu v\u0113rt\u012bbu viens otram, uzticas un nov\u0113rt\u0113 attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Iemesli, k\u0101p\u0113c cilv\u0113ki st\u0101jas attiec\u012bb\u0101s<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ide\u0101l\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 cilv\u0113ks st\u0101jas attiec\u012bb\u0101s ar visu, kas vi\u0146am pa\u0161am ir nepiecie\u0161ams. Vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a v\u0113las dal\u012bties un augt kop\u0101 ar otru. T\u0101d\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bba var b\u016bt ilgtermi\u0146a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ta\u010du da\u017ek\u0101rt cilv\u0113ki iesaist\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s, lai kompens\u0113tu sev\u012b iztr\u016bksto\u0161\u0101s j\u016btas. \u0160\u012bs attiec\u012bbas bie\u017ei vien izj\u016bk, kad hormonu uzpl\u016bds p\u0101riet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012bts 2. Dz\u012bves m\u012blest\u012bba var b\u016bt tikai viena.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tas viss ir individu\u0101li. K\u0101ds var m\u012bl\u0113t vienu cilv\u0113ku visu m\u016b\u017eu, bet k\u0101ds maina partnerus. Cilv\u0113kam dz\u012bv\u0113 var b\u016bt vair\u0101ki partneri. Agr\u0101k cilv\u0113ki tik tikko pasp\u0113ja apprec\u0113ties un rad\u012bt b\u0113rnus, bet ar\u012b tad bija p\u0101ri, kas \u0161\u0137\u012br\u0101s un s\u0101ka jaunas attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Seri\u0101l\u0101 monog\u0101mija<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca cilv\u0113ku savas dz\u012bves laik\u0101 veido attiec\u012bbas ar vair\u0101k nek\u0101 vienu partneri, un to sauc par s\u0113rijveida monog\u0101miju. Tas ir norm\u0101li. Cilv\u0113ki var \u0161\u0137irties da\u017e\u0101du iemeslu d\u0113\u013c, piem\u0113ram, v\u0113rt\u012bbu mai\u0146as d\u0113\u013c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012bts 3. Vienlaic\u012bgi var m\u012bl\u0113t tikai vienu cilv\u0113ku.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nav iesp\u0113jams m\u012bl\u0113t vair\u0101kus cilv\u0113kus ar vien\u0101d\u0101m j\u016bt\u0101m. Da\u017e\u0101di cilv\u0113ki izraisa da\u017e\u0101das j\u016btas un apmierina da\u017e\u0101das vajadz\u012bbas. Da\u017ereiz cilv\u0113kam var b\u016bt da\u017e\u0101das j\u016btas pret da\u017e\u0101diem cilv\u0113kiem vienlaikus, bet t\u0101 neb\u016bs viena un t\u0101 pati m\u012blest\u012bba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u012bts 4: Draudz\u012bba starp v\u012brieti un sievieti nav iesp\u0113jama<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ja v\u012brietim un sievietei ir kop\u012bgas intereses un v\u0113rt\u012bbas, vi\u0146i var k\u013c\u016bt par draugiem. \u0160\u0101d\u0101 draudz\u012bb\u0101 cilv\u0113ki ir ieinteres\u0113ti viens otr\u0101 k\u0101 person\u012bbas, nevis k\u0101 seksu\u0101li partneri. Draudz\u012bba starp v\u012brieti un sievieti ir iesp\u0113jama t\u0101pat k\u0101 starp div\u0101m sieviet\u0113m vai v\u012brie\u0161iem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jaut\u0101jums par draudz\u012bbu bie\u017ei vien ir str\u012bd\u012bgs, jo rodas p\u0101rpratumi. Ja cilv\u0113ks ir seksu\u0101li pievilc\u012bgs, t\u0101 nav draudz\u012bba. Ta\u010du romantiskas j\u016btas var rasties starp v\u012brie\u0161iem un sieviet\u0113m. T\u0101d\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101 ir lab\u0101k to p\u0101rrun\u0101t ar draugu. Ja j\u016btas ir vienpus\u0113jas, draudz\u012bbai, visticam\u0101k, b\u016bs j\u0101beidzas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ko dar\u012bt ar m\u012btiem sav\u0101 galv\u0101<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n J\u016bs varat saprast, k\u0101 salabot attiec\u012bbas, konsult\u0113joties ar psihologu. Psytalk pied\u0101v\u0101 individu\u0101lo un p\u0101ru terapiju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \"M\u012blest\u012bba ir j\u0101nopelna\": l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgo attiec\u012bbu veidi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kad robe\u017eas attiec\u012bb\u0101s ir neskaidras<\/p>\n\n\n\n Satura r\u0101d\u012bt\u0101js<\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Kas ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. K\u0101di ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgo attiec\u012bbu draudi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. L\u012bdzatkar\u012bgu attiec\u012bbu paz\u012bmes<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. K\u0101 norm\u0101las attiec\u012bbas k\u013c\u016bst l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. L\u012bdzatkar\u012bgo attiec\u012bbu veidi<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. K\u0101p\u0113c ir gr\u016bti izbeigt l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. K\u0101 pal\u012bdz\u0113t m\u012b\u013cotajam, kur\u0161 ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bg\u0101 attiec\u012bb\u0101s<\/p>\n\n\n\n Da\u017ereiz j\u016bs v\u0113laties piln\u012bb\u0101 sapl\u016bst ar savu partneri - dal\u012bties ar visiem vi\u0146a hobijiem, pavad\u012bt visu laiku kop\u0101 un b\u016bt neatdal\u0101ms veselums. \u0160\u0101dos br\u012b\u017eos ir gr\u016bti atcer\u0113ties savas v\u0113lmes un robe\u017eas. Kop\u0101 ar psihologu noskaidrosim, kas ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas un k\u0101das t\u0101s var b\u016bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kas ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n L\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas ir tad, ja cilv\u0113ks ierobe\u017eo savu br\u012bv\u012bbu un k\u013c\u016bst emocion\u0101li, finansi\u0101li vai fiziski atkar\u012bgs no otra. Partneris \u0161\u0137iet vien\u012bgais resursu avots, t\u0101p\u0113c \u0161\u0101das attiec\u012bbas sp\u0113c\u012bgi ietekm\u0113 dz\u012bvi. L\u012bdzatkar\u012bba var rasties ne tikai romantiskos p\u0101ros. Piem\u0113ram, ja cilv\u0113ks ir atkar\u012bgs no alkohola, vi\u0146a \u0123imene izj\u016bt nepiecie\u0161am\u012bbu vi\u0146u gl\u0101bt no \u0161\u012bs atkar\u012bbas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Emocion\u0101l\u0101 atkar\u012bba<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Emocion\u0101l\u0101 atkar\u012bba var rasties, ja cilv\u0113ks b\u0113rn\u012bb\u0101 nav sa\u0146\u0113mis pietiekamu atbalstu. Pieaugot vi\u0146\u0161 vai vi\u0146a cen\u0161as to kompens\u0113t attiec\u012bb\u0101s, k\u013c\u016bstot atkar\u012bgs no partnera emocij\u0101m. Vesel\u012bg\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s partneri izr\u0101da emp\u0101tiju un atbalstu, bet nodala savas emocijas no otra partnera emocij\u0101m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Materi\u0101l\u0101 atkar\u012bba<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Emocion\u0101l\u0101 l\u012bdzatkar\u012bba var b\u016bt saist\u012bta ar materi\u0101lo l\u012bdzatkar\u012bbu. Piem\u0113ram, viens no partneriem nemekl\u0113 darbu un pa\u013caujas uz otru finansi\u0101los jaut\u0101jumos. Tas rada trauksmi un nestabilit\u0101ti. Ir gad\u012bjumi, kad viens no partneriem ir finansi\u0101li atkar\u012bgs apst\u0101k\u013cu d\u0113\u013c, piem\u0113ram, dodoties gr\u016btniec\u012bbas un dzemd\u012bbu atva\u013cin\u0101jum\u0101. \u0160\u0101d\u0101s situ\u0101cij\u0101s veidojas finansi\u0101la atkar\u012bba, kas apgr\u016btina attiec\u012bbu p\u0101rtrauk\u0161anu, ja nepiecie\u0161ams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101di ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgo attiec\u012bbu draudi?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n L\u012bdzatkar\u012bg\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s viens no partneriem var emocion\u0101li sv\u0101rst\u012bties, p\u0101rmai\u0146us izce\u013cot skand\u0101lus un izr\u0101dot maigumu. Tas var novest pie:<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Fiziska vardarb\u012bba: partneris ir vardarb\u012bgs, bet p\u0113c tam no\u017e\u0113lo savu vainu un cikls atk\u0101rtojas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n - Psiholo\u0123isk\u0101 vardarb\u012bba (gaslighting): viens no partneriem rada situ\u0101cijas, kur\u0101s otrs partneris s\u0101k \u0161aub\u012bties par sav\u0101m j\u016bt\u0101m un atbilst\u012bbu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n L\u012bdzatkar\u012bgu attiec\u012bbu paz\u012bmes<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Neizpild\u012btas vajadz\u012bbas: l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgais j\u016bt, ka partnerim vajadz\u0113tu r\u016bp\u0113ties par vi\u0146a\/vi\u0146as vajadz\u012bb\u0101m, bet nevar to tie\u0161i l\u016bgt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. p\u0101rmai\u0146u gaid\u012b\u0161ana: l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgais gaida, kad partneris main\u012bsies un nov\u0113rt\u0113s vi\u0146a centienus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Koncentr\u0113jieties uz partneri: visi prieki un probl\u0113mas k\u013c\u016bst kop\u012bgi, un person\u012bg\u0101s intereses atk\u0101pjas otraj\u0101 pl\u0101n\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Ja partnerim kaut kas neizdodas, l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgais vaino sevi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101 norm\u0101las attiec\u012bbas k\u013c\u016bst l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Vesel\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas att\u012bst\u0101s, izejot familiarit\u0101tes, dro\u0161\u012bbas, pie\u0137er\u0161an\u0101s un kop\u012bgu intere\u0161u posmus. Cilv\u0113ki ar tieksmi uz l\u012bdzatkar\u012bbu bie\u017ei izlai\u017e dro\u0161\u012bbas posmu, \u0101tri iegrimst attiec\u012bb\u0101s un s\u0101k dz\u012bvot partnera interes\u0113m, aizmirstot par sav\u0101m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n L\u012bdzatkar\u012bgu attiec\u012bbu veidi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Vec\u0101ks un b\u0113rns: viens no partneriem ir infantils un gaida uzslavas, otrs partneris \u0161\u0101du uzved\u012bbu veicina.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Viens partneris cen\u0161as pasarg\u0101t otru no probl\u0113m\u0101m vai atkar\u012bbas, uz\u0146emoties vainu par vi\u0146a r\u012bc\u012bbu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Agresors un upuris: viens partneris kontrol\u0113 un \u013caunpr\u0101t\u012bgi izturas, otrs tam piekr\u012bt, cerot uzlabot attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101p\u0113c ir gr\u016bti izbeigt l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Apzi\u0146a, ka cilv\u0113ks ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgs, bie\u017ei vien n\u0101k tikai p\u0113c nopietna incidenta vai pamatattiec\u012bbu p\u0101rk\u0101puma. Izjuk\u0161anu sare\u017e\u0123\u012b tas, ka l\u012bdzatkar\u012bg\u0101 persona var nesaprast, ka past\u0101v probl\u0113ma, kam\u0113r nenotiek kaut kas b\u016btisks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u0101 pal\u012bdz\u0113t tuviniekam, kur\u0161 ir l\u012bdzatkar\u012bgs attiec\u012bb\u0101s<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Pied\u0101v\u0101jiet pal\u012bdz\u012bbu: pajaut\u0101jiet, vai persona v\u0113las j\u016bsu viedokli par savu situ\u0101ciju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Izr\u0101diet atbalstu: Dodiet skaidri saprast, ka esat gatavs uzklaus\u012bt un atbalst\u012bt jebkur\u0101 laik\u0101.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ja j\u016btat, ka ar partneri vairs neesat sav\u0113jais, sazinieties ar psihologu. Psytalk speci\u0101listi var pal\u012bdz\u0113t jums izprast j\u016bsu attiec\u012bbas un atrast veidus, k\u0101 t\u0101s uzlabot.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Telefona zvans... Daudziem cilv\u0113kiem tas ir \u012bsts p\u0101rbaud\u012bjums. Uzzin\u0101sim, k\u0101p\u0113c rodas bailes no telefona zvaniem un k\u0101 ar t\u0101m tikt gal\u0101. Kas ir telefobija un k\u0101p\u0113c t\u0101 rodas Telefobija jeb bailes no telefona zvaniem ir soci\u0101l\u0101s trauksmes paveids. T\u0101 izpau\u017eas ar \u0161\u0101diem simptomiem: - Ba\u017eas par to, k\u0101 j\u016bs uztvers. - Bailes izskat\u012bties [...]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"om_disable_all_campaigns":true,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3772","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3772","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3772"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3772\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5752,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3772\/revisions\/5752"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3772"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3772"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zabota.eu\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3772"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}